you may have noticed my posts have been a bit vague about this whole New York thing. this is mostly because i really have no details yet. and, really, it's just after everyone asking if i have a job (more embarrassing, just assuming i've got one figured out and then having to tell them "uhh no") i got sick of explaining the vagueness, letting everyone know i really didn't have it figured out. because then they always had their opinion.
my grandpa told me maybe i shouldn't get rid of old boots until i found new ones. not that i exactly had old boots to begin with.
a friend wondered how i would pay for the city if i didn't even have a place to live or work in the city. it's a catch-22, and i'm working on it.
i thought i was absolutely crazy for getting this wild idea in my head and maybe it'd be best to move home and revert to being a fifteen year old. which is still a tempting proposition.
someone suggested maybe i actually visit said city before i bought that one-way ticket and found myself stuck. yeah, wish i could afford that.
and i took all that advice--good advice, really--and just flat-out ignored it. cuz that's how i roll. but i do have a plan, even if it is a little vague. and general. and dreamy. and maybe even naive. i just...there's really nothing for me here in utah (see previous post) so a move was inevitable. and after some circling around london, la, texas, or dc, i found myself settling in on nyc. you might think this was natural as i have always been drawn to the city and it's been a dream vacation since forever. truth is, i never wanted to live in new york. too loud. too cold. too tall. too big. too far. too rodent-intensive. but here i was deciding, yeah, that's where i should fly off to.
so the plan? i arrive in NYC. my cool cousin (doing cool things like this) and his lovely wife (killing it at Teach For America), let me crash for a few days/weeks at their lovely pad right on Central Park, west side. cuz they're nice like that. i immediately go on the hunt for housing as this is a must. i'll look everywhere but hope for somewhere on the Upper West Side since that is close to where i want to work, supposedly has the best ward, and is easily accessible via public transportation. simultaneously--just to exercise my multi-tasking skills--i look for a job.
i want to work in publishing. that's the goal. anything will do, really, because i love it that much. but trade publishing/fiction/ya/childrens would be beautiful. still, as i fight for that dream, i'll allow my dwindling funds to motivate me to take any job. well, aside from retail or food, since my dignity will never allow that. temp jobs are definitely on my radar. and i have a lovely freelance writing job (anyone looking for a house?) that will also help me keep busy.
so. make it or break it, i'll be in nyc. which seems like consolation enough to deal with...well, pretty much anything.
details as they come.
Friday, August 30, 2013
the end. the beginning. the whatchamacallit.
well, folks. this is it. i'm kinda reeling and it's all sorts of surreal, but it's happening. this is my last day in utah. am i allowed to be happy about that? yes, most definitely. pretty much since my arrival in this place i've only wanted to leave. and now...
no offense.
but seriously.
so this is me today...
Thursday, August 22, 2013
i love it when things i love get loved
so, not to be all hipster, but...
i totally loved them before they won an emmy.
for those who don't know what it is, it's a beautiful, modern, feminist, wonderful, funny, full-of-beautiful-men-that-still-don't-matter-as-much-as-the-sisters/cousins/friends remake of Pride and Prejudice done--perfectly, i might add--as if through a youtube vlog. if you haven't watched it, watch it. no one has ever started and hated it (and if you're the first, well, just don't tell me).
i totally loved them before they won an emmy.
for those who don't know what it is, it's a beautiful, modern, feminist, wonderful, funny, full-of-beautiful-men-that-still-don't-matter-as-much-as-the-sisters/cousins/friends remake of Pride and Prejudice done--perfectly, i might add--as if through a youtube vlog. if you haven't watched it, watch it. no one has ever started and hated it (and if you're the first, well, just don't tell me).
finding myself
with this whole "college" thing behind me, it's suddenly become a time of introspection. maybe nostalgia? it's crazy getting all these congrats from high school friends and home ward peeps...life kinda comes at you fast. like, when did i turn 22? i know i'm not old, but that still sounds like a big number. especially since the last time i really cared about my birthdate i was like...18. so, yeah, four years come fast and they come hard. they packed a pretty heavy punch. and i'm sitting in my room sifting through old photos and wondering at who i used to be. finally, it's sinking in--just how much i've changed. and how weird it is, too. the things that change and the things that stay the same. and i can't exactly explain when or why or how but me now is different than me then. in fact, i feel more me than any version of me has ever felt. and that's a pretty cool thing.
so, me? meet me.
so, me? meet me.
things that stayed the same.
i love chocolate ice cream--i never did buy into the froyo thing.
puppies are still definitely the greatest creatures known to man.
i love a good disaster flick. though ever after is still one of the best movies ever made.
with the above in mind, i'm still a master of movie quotes.
i love cheesy/blonde jokes.
i write. all the time. little bits of everything. i still want to be published. i want my name to be google-able. it will happen.
i love shakespeare and the classics. and i have a soft spot for ya lit.
i hate driving. still can't drive stick to save my life.
my family is my favorite.
still have/had no school pride or memorabilia for my time there.
i can be shy and a little uncomfortable in crowds. i just know now it's called "introversion" and it's not a crime.
the sarcasm is alive and well.
i'm fiercely loyal but i ain't no door mat.
i still love to shop.
i still love to shop.
things that are different.
i dress better. really.
i love goats now. i don't know when exactly that happened. but it did.
the cupcake craze killed me. nothing better than a nutella crepe cupcake from sweet tooth fairy.
i love goats now. i don't know when exactly that happened. but it did.
the cupcake craze killed me. nothing better than a nutella crepe cupcake from sweet tooth fairy.
oh, and the nutella craze in general. though that was mostly europe's fault.
now i'm a really terrible parker. don't know how it happened, but it did.
i'm a jay z and eminem fangirl. to a fault. i sing their stuff as if i can relate.
i took the mpaa rating system age suggestion to heart. fell in love with movies like Slumdog Millionaire, Silver Linings Playbook, even The Grey. there's just something powerful to storytelling and i'm addicted to seeing any and all sides.
i went to london and paris and changed my whole life. reminded myself the world is a big place. and it's fairly pretty, too.
this means i got comfortable doing my thing in a big city. not scared anymore. bring it on, NYC. just...don't make me cry.
my writing is much more...more. and less...vapid, shallow, romantical, naive, happy-ending stuff.
my reading habits pretty much match that trend.
i'm braver and more brash. once in awhile, though, i'm even known to be bubbly.
i managed to kick the habit of watching the bachelor or ANTM. claps for me; it was a hard fight. never mind it's been replaced by KUWTK.
i'm fiercely loyal but i ain't no door mat. to a new extreme. and yet i'm more openminded too. so there's that.
oh, and my inner feminist came roaring up against all the byu/provo/mormon/utah culture-isms. #getmeoutofhere
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
A little thing called family
there's a lot of awful stories about awful in-laws. just not getting along with them to outright hating them, there's always risk involved with adding to the family.
but justin did good.
Sunday, August 18, 2013
the distraction in a fingerprint
i wish our skin held memories. imprinted like a tattoo you could brush over and remember. experience again. life is so four dimensional. it's sensory. and yet we only have one way to log memory, limited to language and mental recreation, always only half the story.
but what if we could feel it again? if our skin held onto those sensations. to look at your skin--this web of human experience--and feel it all over? veins bubble at the surface and skin frays in strange ways. but it's seen so much. it's felt so much. we can't remember it all--the first time you touched the velvet of a rose petal; felt an ice cube melt cold against your burning flesh; lit a match and watched the flame dance blue close to your fingers.
we can remember and recount, but it's our skin that has lived every memory. it holds them like scars until you can trace your whole existence across your skin and wonder at what it has seen.
but what if we could feel it again? if our skin held onto those sensations. to look at your skin--this web of human experience--and feel it all over? veins bubble at the surface and skin frays in strange ways. but it's seen so much. it's felt so much. we can't remember it all--the first time you touched the velvet of a rose petal; felt an ice cube melt cold against your burning flesh; lit a match and watched the flame dance blue close to your fingers.
we can remember and recount, but it's our skin that has lived every memory. it holds them like scars until you can trace your whole existence across your skin and wonder at what it has seen.
Wednesday, August 14, 2013
dreamin' aint all it's cracked up to be.
some days are absolutely terrifying with this whole "growing up" thing. how do people figure out life when there's nothing--and i mean nothing--telling you what to do? like...not married, not going to school, not getting any job offers. all i've got is dreams. they're kinda nightmarish, actually. the way they just go on and on, pounding hard, bringing up insecurities, squelching others. and i can't face them all at once.
so.
here's to the city that never sleeps.
see you in september.
so.
here's to the city that never sleeps.
see you in september.
Monday, August 12, 2013
last days.
just left work for the last time. it's kinda surreal. that this is it. pretty much four years working on campus, going to school, doing all that BYU stuff. and now it's done. I'm out.
terminated.
i think it'll hit in a few days. right now, i just don't know how to handle goodbyes.
Friday, August 9, 2013
i wrote a love letter once.
well, not really a love letter. a story. but it's kind of the same thing.
and this letter/story morphling was about graduation. which is a big word all it's own. i wrote it for my last class at university. it portrays every nasty, good, happy, sad emotion i've had to face in years trying to figure myself out. so, here it is.
* please note all events are fictional, and any relation to reality--beyond the metaphysical--is purely coincidental.
and this letter/story morphling was about graduation. which is a big word all it's own. i wrote it for my last class at university. it portrays every nasty, good, happy, sad emotion i've had to face in years trying to figure myself out. so, here it is.
* please note all events are fictional, and any relation to reality--beyond the metaphysical--is purely coincidental.
The Graduation
You get four years. To grow up. To
get an education. To start a life. As if everything before didn’t count as much
as these eight semesters, forty-eight months, 1,460 days—2,103,796 minutes that
all rush together and blend, a mess of memories and moments meant to matter.
They have to matter. They make you. And so you keep count.
First, you walk into a dorm with
white walls decorated only by loud flyers stating dates about cleaning checks
and mandatory socials. The minutes count down—from 2,103,796 to 2,103,795. But
there’s still so many you don’t notice. There’s an awkward exchanging of first
hellos with the roommates who look you up and down to see if you’ll do. It’s an
introduction tainted by the goodbyes you turn to face as your mom struggles to
hide her tears and your dad stares at a corner where the TV plays the game he’s
missing for you. Your mom grips you like she would the last cigarette before
she quit. Your dad pats you on the back but then remembers you’re his daughter
and affection is okay, so he hugs you from the side and musses your hair for
old-times sake. They say to call them everyday—a promise you keep for a week,
maybe two, until you forget they were your whole life once. Eighteen years become
nothing to parties and dates and homework and classes and pranks and dances
that still feel like something out of high school.
But you have to move on. Because 44,640
minutes later and you’re telling a joke at a party—something about a giraffe
and a lion that isn’t that funny, but he smiles at you anyway. There’s an
electricity between you that you won’t be able to fight and then he’ll be next
to you, leaning in against the loud music to tell you his name. You think it
will matter for a long time. Because he touches your arm and asks you to dance
even though no one else is dancing. And your bodies will move together, pulsing
intimately to the music as the others around you laugh but all you can care
about is the way the green in his eye turns golden when he keeps smiling at
you.
It’s only 2,880 minutes after that
and he’s walking you home after a perfect date. You went dancing again and the
heat is still trapped beneath your skin where your heart pounds and you breaths
stay shallow with all the nervous laughter. He stands at your door and reaches
for you. And you smile first, thinking of the way the light sheen of sweat on
his forehead sparkles in the moonlight. But his touch is rough and hungry. He
pulls you too closely, holds you too tightly, touches you too familiarly. You
tell him no, you ask him to stop, but his hands grip you in ways that make you
feel naked, insignificant, worthless, empty. His tongue twists inside your
mouth and you wonder how he ever convinced you he was beautiful. Somehow, his
touch makes you wonder if maybe, since he’s on you—since you let him come even
this close—that makes you just as ugly as him.
It’s not a minute later and your
roommate opens the door, screaming like a banshee as she chases him off in
colored language, threatening his manhood as much as his life for ever touching
you. And you fall to your knees and cry, heaving against his taste still in
your mouth, shaking off the shadows of his wandering hands.
You see him again after 20,160
minutes, his arm around another girl, his eyes shining the way they did the
first time you met. You wonder if you got it wrong. You are alone and miserable
and he is happy and beautiful. And your world suddenly seems small and limited
and gray as your plain sweater. But your roommate will step into the scene to spill a drink down his
shirt, apologizing half-heartedly as he jumps up, enraged. Then he recognizes
her—he has to—and he steps down. She smirks and flips her hair, walking back to
you, grabbing a new drink on her way.
“Forget the asshole,” she tells
you. “He’s bound to lose his balls in some freak accident.”
And you laugh then. 131,487 minutes
later and she’s more than a roommate or a best friend. And you can’t keep track
of every minute together. It’s a mess of morning pancakes, open mic nights,
long bike rides, double dates, YouTube marathons, and inside jokes revolving
around cat memes that no one else find funny. She’s a part of you, as familiar
and constant as another limb—like a third arm that might make other people
uncomfortable but that you can’t imagine life without. It will be later, but
the turning of the 1,000,000 minute will mark the last night of singlehood. And
even though she refuses to mention his name—because this night is about you—you
watch her blush and laugh and realize you’re losing her. Suddenly, your life
loses its color.
You consider all your options too
late. It’s a year gone—1,577,847 minutes lost—and you’re rethinking that major
in business, the course you long ago settled on over stilted talks with your
dad. Now when you talk about English and writing, people all tell you what to
do: “Think of all the time you spent that you’ll never have again”; “What are
you going to do the next time you want to quit?”; “Just because you’re
passionate about it doesn’t mean you can make a life out of it.” All the advice
jumbles together, twisted like a Twizzler you can pull apart and take string by
string—bits of well-intentioned life lessons wrapped around messages of doubt
and disbelief, all making you scared that maybe you can’t do it—anything you
want—after all.
People change and leave and grow.
Your life is unfamiliar at 1,051,898 minutes and you wonder if it will ever
make sense like it once did. Now a flat tire leaves you stranded on the side of
the road when you’re already late to take a test for your business minor—the
compromise that still lets your dad send you that monthly check. But you don’t
know what you’re doing—with the car, that is—and your spare tire gets away from
you, rolling away from its precarious position on the curb. You chase it and
the wind chases you. It only makes it a few feet before you catch it, drinking
in big gulps of air as you struggle to find some sense of direction; as you
struggle to remind yourself that this is only a flat and not a life crisis; as
you struggle to remember why you’re taking the test in the first place; as you
struggle to comprehend that it could be worse and maybe it will be. So you hold
that tire and stare ahead at a traffic light that blinks green then yellow then
red.
You find yourself 40,320 minutes
later in the height of summer when a cloud burst above you, dumping rain in a
violent tempter tantrum that catches you off guard in your white shorts and
tight top. You think you should be mortified but there’s something so cleansing
in that rainfall. So you stand in the middle of the courtyard and laugh, your
arms stretched out over you as if your whole body is thirsty to drink it in.
You lose yourself in the pounding rain running in torrents off every curve you
see as a flaw, rinsing off every thought from the last thousand minutes. It’s
cold and warm all at once, steaming in hurried twists off the burning cement.
You wonder for a moment if you can evaporate with it, but then you smile,
somehow whole again.
You take a last-minute trip during
your last summer. It’s only 262,974 minutes to go when dozens of kids drive
together, laughing and screaming “YOLO” in ways meant to prove they believe it.
But the nights turn to talks around the fire about where you’re going and what you
want to do and who you’ll still care about. People get quiet and the air gets
heavy as they realize that carpe diem only carries you so far. The fire
crackles and the stars twinkle and your life never felt so cliché. Everyone
lets their s’mores toast too long and the marshmallows drip from sticks,
crystallizing black against the ash. You’re reminded about that poem you were
forced to analyze your freshman year—something about dreams deferred withering
like a raisin in the sun. And you suddenly understand. You wonder if you’ve
wasted four years or if you’ve done enough, seen enough, accomplished enough to
make them count.
And, now, here you are. The minutes
have run out. The months have wrapped up. The semesters are finished. Suddenly,
four years are over. You sit in a black, billowy gown that hides the blue dress
your mom bought in an attempt to prove she still knows you best. But you’re
different, and you can’t quite place why you feel uncomfortable in her version
of you now. The fabric itches, the cut is wrong, the seams stretch. But you
smile blithely as she straightens your cap. Dad is there, too, but he’s
quieter. If it’s possible. He stands apart from your mom, irritated by her
tears. The years look heavy on him and the unfamiliarity between you grows. He
smiles quickly and your mom tries not to cry. But you pretend not to notice.
That’s what threw you back four years. That’s what made the memories churn and
burn and rise to the surface, determined to never be forgot. But what do they
care, if you remember them or not? Dark and bright, sudden or constant—the
layers of them don’t get past you; they swallow you whole.
You walk forward blindly. You sit
down amongst hundreds. Some of them you know and some you don’t. Some of them
are smiling, but some of them stare like you, lost in a shadow of their own
making. And time suddenly stop.
You tell yourself the memories
matter. That they have to. No matter how jumbled or random or trivial. They
have to. They are you. So you stash them away with something like a smile. They
line up together like broad splotches on a white canvas, coloring you in
unfamiliar ways until you take a step back, watching them blur together. The
further you get, the clearer the image. Until you’re walking across a stage, a
piece of paper handed to you, finally forced to face your future and, suddenly,
the image takes form. It’s you. Each corner of color builds you; each memory
makes you. Separated in desperate attempts to paint detail, they mean nothing;
splotched together, they suddenly become you.
You step forward. You turn your
thoughts forward. And you move forward.
Off the stage. Down the steps. Into
the arms of people who all think they know you perfectly but who only have
shades and colorings—the images they were a part of; the ones they use to
define you as well as them. You let them smile at you and hug you and congratulate
you, but you recognize the you that you are is different than the one they’ve
constructed. There’s a complexity in the coloring. There’s a layering in the
make up. There’s a promise of more to come.
The minute turns. And, for the
first time, time moves forward.
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