i guess this is a thing now. and that's fine or whatever. their thing. i don't care.
but it got me thinking about feminism. which i'm all for. and it got me thinking about how i really don't fit in with most feminists. which got me riled up. and i was bothered. and then i was sitting here wishing there was someone to vent to, but, oh yeah, i'm alone out here. and then i remembered this blog. and i just had to say...
i don’t get why empowering women has to be so much about trying to be like men. that’s backwards to me. to be a feminist is to believe in the feminine powers—not to discount them and fight instead to be “one of the boys.”
sure, I don’t want to be my (future) husband’s property or only find meaning through home making and casserole cooking, but I also don’t really care to wear suits and ties or act like--pardon my french--an ass just so men will look past my breasts and accept me into some elite club of masculinity. because, frankly, i don't want any of that.
i don’t have to wear pants to church to feel like god recognizes me as an individual. and I don’t need the priesthood to feel like a VIP in this gospel.
i want men to get off their high horse of entitlement and women to look up from centuries of traditionalized servitude and think, yeah, i'm a woman and that's not a crime. i can wear a dress, and that's not a crime. i can not want to be the main breadwinner and i can not want to be CEO of some major company--or i can--and that's fine. what's not fine is believing that femininity is an enemy of feminism. or thinking it's your curves or long curls or love of cooking that's holding you back.
genders aren't inherently evil. they are individually powerful. i love being different from a guy. what i don't love is being treated less than for not being a guy. or using possibly female-inherent qualities as an excuse to disappear into a role behind a man because that's what tradition dictates.
no, thank you.
i'm loud and opinionated and passionate. i'm not a very good cook and i tend to hate arts and crafts. but i won't be ashamed to wear dresses or be a mother. i'll never be a housewife--even if i'm a stay-at-home mom. but you know why? because i believe in equality, not uniformity. or homogeneity. or indistinguishability.
to me, identities are inherently individualistic. for both sexes.
to me, when women scream and yell to be treated like men...it sounds like they're admitting that to be a woman is to be less than. it's buying into the lesser-sex crap. and that's not fair.
i don't believe in the battle of the sexes. because why does one always have to be at the bottom? men are great. women are great. the gender stereotypes should be more blurred--i believe that. but i'm sick of feminism being about men and masculinity and girls screaming "we can play your game just like you."
to me, that's not what this is about.
to me, it's about finally recognizing that women are strong. they're individuals. they're each a soul held in a body perfect for them and their dreams. and stereotypes should never be enough to limit anyone. that's the crime here. a woman can't be held back for wanting to be an executive. and a man shouldn't be held back for wanting to be a stay-at-home dad. and it shouldn't have to be such a conversation about who's winning or who's selling out.
women can be who they want, whatever that is. just like men.
that's what feminism is to me. and so when we get caught up in "breaking" gender stereotypes just by playing into the masculine version...
i guess I don't get it.
but maybe i like louboutins too much. they really are my weakness.